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Allah does not burden you upon your scope!
Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. "Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people."(The Noble Qur'an-Surah Al-Baqarah Ayat 286)
What level are you at on the "Esteem Bar"?
Author: Walida Muhammad
Date: March 16, 2013
Esteem involves how you think about your self and your abilities. It is
vital to your personal growth. It has two phases but ,in my opinion, it
would be best to be in the middle. Thinking positive about the kind of
person you are and your abilities has a major influence on how you react
to situations and interact with others. It can mean the difference
between being appreciative or becoming depressed in response to feedback
Low self esteem in women is very common just based on the fact that we have so many things to deal with. We also are experiencing hormonal changes much more than men, due to our monthly courses. We undergo a lot of stress during our monthly courses due to the increased release of hormones. It's no wonder we may have the moments where we want to just eat a nice bowl of ice cream, or impulse shop, or grab a chocolate bar even when we are fully aware of the unhealthy affects to our body and finances.
According to research, there is a part of the brain that is responsible for how we perceive ourselves. This part of the brain is called the ACC( Anterior Cingulate Cortex) and it lies on the medial surfaces of the brains frontal lobes. Also a study, presented at a conference at the Royal Society in London, found that the brains of people with low self esteem are more likely to shrink compared with those who have a high self esteem.
NOOO Wayyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I cannot even imagine my brain shrinking!!! Can you?
What do you do about all this esteem stuff?
Let's start by educating ourselves on it's symptoms.
Here are some questions to ask yourself?
1. Do I constantly doubt myself and distrust my own judgements?
2.Do I blame myself for everything?
3.Do I seek to be approved by others in order to be happy?
4.Do I over-compensate or over achieve?
5.Do I stay stuck and inactive when I set goals because I fear failure?
6.Am i a perfectionist, looking for something wrong in everything?
7.Am I almost always dissatisfied with myself and my abilities?
8.Am I easily overcome with depression and despair when i experience a setback in my life?
9. Do I use addictive behavior to medicate my emotional pain?(over-eating,over-working,excessively searching for validation)
10.Do I have a tendency to over react?
There are many more questions but I will stop here and say... So what will you do now?
Time For A.C.T.I.O.N.(Acquiring Confidence To Initiate Opportunity Now)
So where are you on the "Esteem Bar"?
Do you know that what you say affects how you behave? Are you comfortable with these statements that you are making about yourself and feel that it isn't necessary to make any changes? You are probably not feeling so comfortable or maybe you are because you don't want to have to deal with changing it. The choice to willingly stay stuck sounds weird but, according to research, humans would rather stay stuck in an unhealthy circumstance rather than make changes to a more healthy one for fear that they will become uncomfortable and loose control.
Now try coming up with your own affirmations, or positive self statements and repeat them daily! There are so many on the internet so if you are having difficulty coming up with your own just type "daily affirmations for self esteem" in the google search bar!
SAY NO TO BRAIN SHRINKING AND RAISE THAT ESTEEM BAR TODAY!!!
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Read! Read! Read!
Books are key to improving your skills and expanding your knowledge in business and in life!
Many successful people have been found to read ,on average, 5 to 6 books a month and they are truly busy people. How do they find the time? They just do it! They know in order to be successful they must improve self. One of the est ways to improve one's self is to read. Take about 30 minutes daily to read and you can almost guarantee an improvement in your life/biz!
A letter to you!
As Salaamu Alaykum, Peace Be Upon You!
Bismillah(In The Name of God)
I pray you all are doing well on this great morning. Allah has given us another chance to do it all better than yesterday! Let's do the best we can. I know your money might be funny, your kids may be driving you crazy, your husband may getting on your last nerve, you cannot decide what khimar to wear, you feel like nothing is going well, you want to do more but lack the energy, you are trying to motivate yourself to do something about the long list of goals you have, your trying to figure out where to start cleaning up the house, you just want a nap but too afraid to fall asleep because there is so much to do, etc... etc... etc...
I am with you ladies! I know these feelings if not every one of them. Here is what I want to share with you....
Try some of these things as you go about your day!
1. Take some deep breaths(in through the nose and out the mouth)
2. Approach all things in an optimistic manner
3. Seek guidance from God(Allah)
4. Kick the negative speech inspired by satan's whisper( he gotta go!)
5. Remind yourself of your ultimate purpose in all things
6. Exercise for a few minutes (30 min is good) It releases endorphins and this causes you to get inspired by your creative mind
7. Take small steps to reach your goals.
8. Take a nap(YES! taking a nap has been proven to reduce and prevent fatigue, obesity, stress, and many diseases of the body)
9. Call a friend or family member (keep it short though)
10. F.E.A.R.-Fight Excuses And Rise
11. Remember that you only have control over what you do (your thoughts, actions, behaviors, and reactions) Mind Your Beeswax!!!! Yall know I love ya so do not take this the wrong way!
HB's 7 Day Inner Speech Challenge
Now for the next 7 days I encourage you to kick it up a notch with more positivity than you did in the last 7 days!!! Who is up for the challenge?